Women have the “g-spot”, men have the prostate. Both are similar in function, and both can produce mind-blowing orgasms in both sexes. If you’re reading this, you’re probably curious about the role of the male prostate in sexual pleasure.
The prostate is a gland that is part of the male reproductive system. It is where the white fluid in semen comes from. It is located approximately 2-4 inches inside the anus, on the front wall. The prostate can be stimulated with the fingers or a special prostate massager sex toy.
Some men might be hesitant to engage in anal play, fearing that it might be effeminate or “gay”. Engaging in prostate stimulation or other anal stimulation has nothing to do with one’s sexual orientation. Plenty of homosexuals do not engage in anal play, while some heterosexuals do. By bringing prostate massage into your sex life, you are unlocking pleasures that you would not be able to experience otherwise.
The best advice for newbies is to invest in a prostate massager toy. We recommend the Aneros line of prostate massagers. The Aneros massagers are made of hard plastic or silicone, are well-made and will last for years. The thickest part of the Aneros is no larger that your finger or thumb, and should not be too difficult to insert.
To use the Aneros prostate massager, use plenty of thick, water-based lube. Lubricate the massager throughly, placing some extra lube on the tip. Apply a pearl-sized dollop of lube to your fingertip and lubricate your anal opening, sticking your finger in up to the first knuckle. Lie down on your back or side with one or both legs in the air and gently insert the Aneros, taking care to insert it in the correct direction. Once the thickest part of the massager is inside, the rest of it will slide in effortlessly.
Lie back and relax for a few minutes and acclimate yourself to the massager being inside you. Then, begin contracting your PC muscle — this is the same muscle you use to stop your urine stream mid-flow. Contract for a few seconds, then release. You can experiment with light or strong contractions, and long or short ones. Once you’re fully relaxed and enjoying the sensation of the Aneros pressing against your prostate, you can stroke the glans of your penis or engage in other penile stimulation.
The Aneros can be comfortably worn during intercourse. Some users have reported experiencing hands-free, non-ejaculatory orgasms using the Aneros, although this is an advanced technique that takes much practice.
For more information on prostate stimulation, including techniques for prostate massage with your partner, read our eBook, Ultimate Male Pleasure.